The ability to get as many things done as soon as possible to everyone's satisfaction has become a daily expectation in modern society. Multitasking and exceeding expectations is now a measuring stick for success and worth. In the midst of this growing need to be perfect in other people's eyes, we have become willing to sacrifice our energy, time, money, and self-respect in the process.
What's really interesting about this human phenomenon is that we somehow lose sight of our needs until we have sacrificed too much. It's not until we have developed high blood pressure, are $50,000 in debt, started missing important family events, or have twice as many projects as your coworkers that we realize we've gone overboard and caused damage to ourselves.
Let's not go overboard. The limit should not be, "I stop when I get high blood pressure." The limit is "I stop BEFORE I get high blood pressure." Otherwise, you would then have to add "managing high blood pressure" to your list of things to put your energy into. Know what your ACTUAL limits are so that you can take care of and protect yourself. This will be key to living as long a happy and healthy life as possible.
Whether it is not passing an exam or placing last in a marathon, you made it. Whether it is a very long day at work or moving into a new home, you've done it before and, therefore, can do it again. Whether it's having been in an abusive relationship or grieving the loss of a loved one, you're forging on.
No matter what struggle, challenge, or hurdle you have faced, big or small, the fact that you're here still drawing breath within this human experience shows strength, courage, resilience, resourcefulness, self-compassion, and a sense of purpose. Don't take your eye off the prize, which is to manifest your soul's true desire. Life.
There are no two people who are exactly the same physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually. Your soul is unique and far reaching, affecting more souls than you know in more ways than you can imagine. Your impact can be the care you gave, the words you spoke, the smiles you shared, and the words you wrote.
A hug you gave may have soothed someone's weary soul, stearing them from a deep depression. Your achievements, no matter how small, may have inspired a perseverance in others that drove them to successful careers. Sharing stories about yourself may have helped someone who can relate to them feel less alone in this giant world. Offering a child a piece of candy may have been the first moment they realized they truly matter. The things we do that seem simple or insignificant can have a majestic impact on another's life.
So, if someone doesn't understand your grief, that is fine. It simply means the impact of that lost soul was meant specifically for you. That departed soul had a meaningful purpose to fulfill in your life's journey. They fulfilled that purpose, and your grief is a painful yet pure, non-discriminating, and boundless appreciation for what that departed soul made possible for you.
When most people are asked "what does whole health mean to you?", a combination of physical, mental, emotional, and maybe spiritual well-being usually springs to mind. But, these are only some of the factors that affect the quality of a person's life. If someone were to ask "what affects your sense of peace and security", you may say "my job", "where I live", or "having friends and family". Therefore, it would seem that your career or job, physical environment, and relationships also have roles to play in a person's well-being.
What a crazy time we are having! Seasonal Allergies. Cold. Flu. And now coronavirus?!!!
It seems Spring 2020 is a giant dodgeball game. But, instead of balls, viruses and bacteria are coming at us from all angles. We have many lines of defense, such as medications, air purifiers, vitamins & minerals, and soap. Let's add another one - ESSENTIAL OILS!!!
The ancient Greeks and Romans were onto something when they were adding lavender essences to their baths. This plant is all levels and ways of awesome, being the remedy for a ton of ailments from insomnia to bruises. Think about it. If lavender protected people from the plague during the Middle Ages, it is worth a double-take when walking past the essential oil shelf in your local store.
It is understandable that counseling and health coaching can seem to be the same thing:
There are a few misconceptions about essential oils (EOs). They are not some new-age hippie fad! Not only are EOs natural, effective, and multi-purpose, but also the original gangsters of the world of medicine, their use dating back 4500 B.C.
EOs have been used in Asia and Europe for centuries to heal wounds, prevent infections, alleviate anxiety, and flavor foods. The original recipe for Coca-Cola used the essential oils of orange, lemon, nutmeg, cinnamon, coriander, and neroli.
Today, EOs are being used to treat epilepsy, sinus congestion, premenstrual syndrome, migraines, and other health concerns. With all that they can do for our health and well-being, EOs are becoming a staple in the home. Most likely, you may have been benefiting from them and not know it:
That means all chamomile (Roman, German, and Maroc) in all forms (essential oil, herbal supplements, etc.) Please don't shoot the messenger! Be mad at ragweed and chamomile for being related.
Ragweed and chamomile are both members of the Asteraceae/Compositae plant family. The plant family also includes chrysanthemums, marigolds, daisies, echinacea, and dandelions. YEP - echinacea and dandelions too! Clinical research has documented that that ragweed allergy sufferers have tendency to be allergic to chamomile as well.
You go to the doctor and are told the familiar, "you need to lose weight", "you have to lower your blood pressure", or "your diet needs to improve". Easier said than done!
Being told what you need to do to improve your health is all good and well; but, how to do it is a different story. "I am busy with work." "I have a family to take care of." "I don't have the finances." "I don't know where to start!" When you need to take what your doctor says and put it into action, that's where your integrative health coach comes in!
Kelly Nembhard is a certified health coach, Reiki therapist, and aromatherapist with experience as a clinical research professional and developmental biologist. She currently lives in Durham, NC.
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