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There may be parts of your authentic self that are yet to be discovered. That is because you have not had the experiences that will reveal those parts to you. Repeating the same life day-in-day-out robs you of the chance to have those experiences. So, don't wait on them to come to you. You can go to them.

A new experience can be traveling to a different place to see what another culture is like. Other cultures can show you new values, tools, ideas, and inspirations. A new culture may await you in a different country or a different city. A new experience can also be a self-care retreat that is focused on either mindfulness, art, physical fitness, or exploring nature. You don't need to take weeks away from work to have a new experience. You can make it a day trip or weekend getaway.

If going out of town for a day is not possible right now, there is still so much you can explore that's close to home. If you like art, take a painting workshop, check out a local art gallery, or visit a dance festival. If you are a foodie, tour a brewery, take a cooking class, or go on a restaurant tasting tour. If you like the outdoors, visit a lavender farm, go horseback riding, or go to a concert in the park.

Remember, becoming your authentic self requires stepping out of your comfort zone. So, no matter where you go, what you do, who you do it with, or if you do it alone, make it something new.

​Living in a state of chaos can shape our definitions of survival, purpose, and love. For some, doing everything possible to cut out chaos is how we show love.
 
Shirzad Chamine, the author of “Positive Intelligence”, explained that growing up in chaos and unhappiness can drive a person to always want to do everything well. Fixing problems, making other people’s lives easier, and making people happy will make you happy. The concern with that idea is you cannot control what makes other people happy and to what extent. You may spend time doing a lot for other people that does not make them happy, which then makes you unhappy.
 
From a life purpose perspective, consider that the problem you are trying to fix for someone else is theirs to fix. Maybe the problem is supposed to help them grow. So, if you fix someone else’s problem, you may rob them of their ability to learn a life lesson and to grow as a person. This is a very hard thing to acknowledge, especially if that someone is a loved one. For example, if a loved one is a drug addict and their addiction is harming them, you may want very much to help them. You want to fix them and make them happy so that they will not need to turn to drugs. But at what point does trying to help them start to weigh on you to the point of harming you.
 
You cannot deplete your energy trying to solve someone else’s problem and expect not to create problems for yourself.  You would be robbing yourself of the chance to be happy. While it is hard to watch your loved one make a mistake, you have to respect that it is their choice to make. Once you have done your due diligence to be supportive and let them know that you love them, accept them and the choices they have made. Everyone has free will, and everyone has a life lesson that they need to learn on their own.

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Have you ever thought of someone, and that someone then call you 2 minutes later? That is not a coincidence. That is life force energy at work.

We are surrounded by life force energy. We are also made up of life force energy. It exists even in the vacuum of space. There are no energy-free spaces in the universe. Because of this, we can use life force energy to have an effect on another person across distances. Think of life force energy as a pond. Disturbing the surface of the water at one end of the pond creates a ripple that spreads out across to the other end. The same thing happens with life force energy. That person who called you right after you thought of them responded to the ripple you sent through the life force energy around us. You created the ripple when you thought of them.

Living our authentic self means honoring all parts of who we are. That includes our thoughts, feelings, and emotions. They allow the soul to express itself in this world. We tend to bury our thoughts, feelings, and emotions to please our family, friends, and society. We do not express happiness so that others don’t get jealous. We do not show sadness so that we don’t seem ungrateful. We hide our grief so that we don’t worsen someone else’s grief. We cover up our anger so that others don’t feel unsafe. By doing these things, we also bury who we truly are, the authentic self.  ​

A big part of our mental well-being is feeling of value to the world. Our authentic self wants to live life with purpose that makes a positive impact on others. One way to do that is by volunteering.

There are so many needs in a community that can be met with just an extra pair of hands. From walking dogs at an animal shelter to mowing the grass of a disabled homeowner, there are many opportunities for making a meaningful difference in the lives of others. Even using 5 minutes a week to take the trash out to the curb for pickup would mean so much to an elderly neighbor who struggles to lift small objects.

Finding out a loved one has died is like a detonated bomb that damages the boundaries of presence.

You have a sharp moment when you are present (finding out the person died). It creates a pain so big and powerful that your mind and soul cannot contain it. That pain explodes, creating heartbreak.

Each culture has specific expectations of each demographic: men should be physically strong; women should cook; teenagers should get good grades in school; and children should be seen, not heard. The problem with having specific expectations of whole sections of society is that it's unrealistic.