Many say that the most powerful word amongst all the languages of the world is Love. But not enough energy, education, and appreciation has been given to its first runner-up, NO.
NO packs quite a punch. It can break hearts, deplete self-esteem, and start all-out war. However, when used for good with grace and without fear, NO is one of the most powerful tools in self-care. It is a shield against the people who will suck you dry. You know who they are.
The lazy coworker who tries to pawn their work off onto you. The relative who thinks you should help them because "we are blood" but is the first person to talk behind your back. The cable provider representative who wants to inform you of all your service options (such a brave soul).
NO helps you set and maintain boundaries so that you don't become overwhelmed or undervalued. NO helps you stay on track with your goals when faced with haters, manipulative beasts, and Debbie Downers. NO can fit just about every mood, including happy, sad, and open-minded.
You don't have to be loud or angry when you say NO; but, say it like you mean it. You may feel guilty afterwards. But, sometimes saying NO is simply the right thing to do.
Kelly Nembhard is a certified health coach, Reiki therapist, and aromatherapist with experience as a clinical research professional and developmental biologist. She currently lives in Durham, NC.
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